I don't like being emotionally invested with people. having gone through a phase of being overtly morbid and what I got out of it is that when people die... it sucks.
and the more emotionally invested you are to someone, the more it'll suck for them to die. so my simple formula: do not invest. but how can one do that when we're wired to be social creatures? you do that by simply investing in a lot of people. logically, if you invest in a lot of people, you're unable to get deeper with them and the deeper they get into you, the harder it is to accept that they're gone. it's like having to choose over a lot of needles pricked into you like acupuncture than have a bunch of knives with teeth stuck in to you.
it's twisted, I know.
there are, however, exceptions to the rule. like for example, I can comfortably invest in people who are more likely to live longer than me. ie. children, healthy individuals. that way, it's almost certain that I won't have to mourn over their death because I'll go ahead of them. corollary from that exception, that means individuals who are most likely to die at least 15 years down the line are dangerous investments. that includes, yes, grandparents and terminally ill individuals.
it's almost psychotic, I know.
I'm a long term individual and I would like to keep the sucky-ness of life to a bare minimum. if that means not being able to experience some of the wonders of life, then so be it. I'd be happy to stay in the middle.
